The Art of the Apology
When to apologize – and when not to.
Shaun Tan, Founder, Editor-in-Chief, Staff Writer
Shaun Tan is a Malaysian writer. He studied International Relations at Yale University and Law at King’s College London. His writing has appeared in The Caravan, Quartz, the Yale Daily News, The Politic, The Diplomat, and the Malay Mail. He’s guest lectured at Yale on Asian culture and creativity, and at the Kuala Lumpur and Perak Bar Councils on political philosophy. He enjoys reading, playing tennis, and talking about himself in the third-person.
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Email him at shaun.tan@rabbitholemag.com
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When to apologize – and when not to.
When his final avenue for appeal against his corruption conviction was exhausted, when time and fate finally came for former Malaysian Prime Minister Najib Razak, he did what he does best: he played victim.
“In refusing to affirm my gender identity, you deny my very existence,” she said, as her body dissolved into thin air. “And so, I cannot exist.”
“Who still calls people? Who still calls people in 2022??”
Where do old friends go?
If we view Hitler as uniquely evil, we blind ourselves to the fact that there really are people as bad, or near as bad, as him today.
Phil Robertson of Human Rights Watch discusses defending human rights in East Asia, how he works with authoritarian governments, and why ASEAN doesn’t care about human rights.
Where do tarot cards come from and why do some people think they have occult powers? A skeptic delves into the colorful world of tarot.
As my mind hazes, my last thought is of the Deep Sleep I will get with this bed and the new heights of success it will bring. Yes, I think, with this bed I will straddle the world.
“Why must you degrade the motherland in public? Just shut up and remember that you already live in paradise.”
For decades, Asian Americans have been stereotyped as overachievers. But one extraordinary young woman is fearlessly shattering this stereotype, by being awful at everything.
“Who will be the next chief executive? Will it be John Lee, the only person running for the office? The suspense is killing us.”
“We will never reopen. We will never abandon our zero-COVID policy. You are all my prisoners, forever.”
NATO is already effectively at war with Putin’s Russia. It falls to it to make sure it wins that war.
China’s vaccines suck, but its government is too proud to admit it. Instead, it’s trapping its entire population in zero-COVID purgatory indefinitely.
“We already have a therapy dog to help students cope with stress, anxiety, and depression. But it’s become clear that many students here suffer from the opposite problem.”
The courage of the Ukrainian people in the face of overwhelming odds, in the face of likely death or imprisonment, puts us all to shame.
“For every one of those robot bartenders they need to hire, like, four people to supervise it.”
“Western commentators are forever harping on about Tiananmen Square. Well, I actually WENT to that square last month. How many protestors did I see being killed there? Zero.”
Being an “ally” to a historically-disadvantaged group is a terrible deal. Don’t get suckered into it.
“A lesser actor might have felt some sense of guilt at lying to the entire country – and allowed this to affect their performance. Not Jussie.”
Many corporations today are basically amoral, and will do business with any regime, no matter how repressive, for the right price. So why won’t they say it?
“Who is this ‘Peng Shuai’ of whom you speak? What proof do you have that there is such a person?”
“I would like some privacy and some time to re-center myself, so don’t be surprised if you don’t hear from me for the next five years or so. Goodbye, everyone!”
“Jodie Comer gave a powerful performance in The Last Duel, but the best acting in the world could not make up for her overwhelming whiteness.”
How Beijing turned a non-issue into an international crisis.
Just a boring bar review…or is it?
The most prestigious intellectual awards in America are now ridiculously fixated on race. We should be worried.
I realized that Hogwarts is actually a trade school – a polytechnic! All we ever learned there was how to cast spells and brew potions.
There are tons of GoFundMe campaigns out there. Here are some of the most unworthy.
“How many times have you been driving and some motherfucker honks you from behind for, like, no reason, but you can’t honk him back because your horn only goes forward?”
Today, Westerners admire violent heroism more than ever, so long as it’s in the distant past or in movies. Is the great heroism of the West now gone to dust and song?
Years from now, it’s likely people will make all sorts of false claims about the War in Afghanistan. Perhaps it’s worth setting a few things down, for the record.
The New York Times seems a little obsessed lately.
We often receive letters from readers seeking advice on problems. Here are some of the most insufferable.
A farewell to the life of the mind.
The supernatural world bleeds into modern-day Manila in the spectacular new Netflix series, Trese.
In a world deluged with information on China, the sinologist Orville Schell gives us that rarest of things: perspective.
China is the ultimate crybully – a country that bullies others yet invokes historical suffering to try to portray itself as a perpetual victim – and other countries are getting sick of its routine.
There’s nothing wrong with teaching Critical Race Theory. The problem is that it’s being taught as gospel.
All your base are belong to us.
Could hundreds of years’ worth of slavery and systemic discrimination really just have gone away? Yes.
“Ye bearest the original sin of white supremacy, inherited from thine fathers, and their fathers before them.”
Cold Wars are lost, rather than won. How might the US lose the new Cold War? How might China?
“The government had no way of knowing that seeing new infection numbers rise every day and doing virtually nothing about it meant they’d keep rising.”
Many Malays have taken to copying Arabs, not just in their views and practices, but in their friends and enemies too.
I keep expecting to hear its plaintive eeeeeeeee in my ear. It’s clear I’ll know no peace until it’s dead.
“Pool involves using a white ball to hit balls of color.”
Should we recognize a terrible person for his talents and achievements?
Though it began with good intentions, Black Lives Matter has degenerated into a toxic cult.
“This was the work of the White Devil. As always, white people are to blame.”
The suspect seems less a racist than a religious nut.
Raya and the Last Dragon is the first Disney movie set in Southeast Asia. And it’s actually good.
“Endless war” is one of the most maligned ideas today. But is it really that bad?
Artificial intelligence presents an existential threat to humanity. As with other existential threats, like global warming and weapons of mass destruction, we need a treaty to manage its risks, and soon.
Many are familiar with the Western canon – those core works of literature, history, and philosophy that are considered essential to the study of the subject. How about the Chinese canon?
Both Asian and Western authorities often portray Confucius as the patron saint of Asian autocrats. They’re all wrong.
If the Australian government values the news industry so much, it should subsidize it itself, instead of expecting foreign private companies to do so.
The US debate on immigration has become so stupid, so deeply, unbelievably stupid, and it’s stupid in a way that’s unique to America.
Disney is planning a series of sequels to its 2020 Mulan live action remake, including Mulan and the South China Sea, Mulan and the 14th Five-Year Plan, and Mulan Pacifies Tibet.
Please find enclosed a full itinerary of the day’s events, along with a waiver absolving us of liability should you happen to contract COVID-19 there.
Trump is no longer president, but his cult remains. How will America reckon with it?
“How do we know you’re REALLY the son of God? Can we see a birth certificate?”
The American obsession with race has become extremely unhealthy.
Earlier this year, Malaysia had a responsible government and responsible citizens, at least as far as COVID was concerned. Now, it has neither.
If you see hatred and stupidity on social media, that’s because so many of us are hateful and stupid.
Liven up your singalong this year with some Christmas gallows humor!
He struggled to describe the perpetrator, and was unable even to say if his assailant was male or female because he considers gender to be “a social construct.”
When virtually everyone is “racist” and “sexist,” it seems, no one is.
Which ideas should Democrats salvage from the Trump train wreck?
So you want to explore the Malaysian jungle? Let me start by saying this is a terrible idea. Almost everything here will try to bite you, sting you, or suck your blood.
Tales grow in the telling, they say, and so they do, and yours most of all, a tale that has grown to become legend.
What’s at stake in this election? The soul of a country that is also a symbol to the world; the fate of democracy itself.
The likely result of packing the court is a spiral into legal anarchy.
Trying to identify the second most powerful person in Xi Jinping’s China is a difficult task.
If the Democrats cynically try to delay the confirmation process, it may cost them the election.
His statement has sown confusion amongst observers in Asia, as it is unclear which Chinese tech company he’s referring to.
“When I look at Malaysians today, I see their despair and frustration at not having me as their prime minister anymore.”
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Thanks for your generous donation! Should an angry student mob form to vilify you for failing to meet some future standard of moral purity, Princeton will disavow all association with you.
It’s time to reclaim the term “elitism,” to recognize that it’s not a pejorative but an expression of our highest aspirations.
There are some dictators to whom one must concede a certain Mephistophelian dignity. Najib isn’t one of them. Look at his ridiculous face – he doesn’t even inspire fear.
A guide for the perplexed.
Since the passing of the new security law, Hong Kong is arguably now a dictatorship. Malaysia has been a dictatorship for over 50 years. Here’s a guide to living under the new normal.
China is the biggest oppressor of Chinese people today. Those who claim to care about them should oppose it.
The New York Times’ reversal on Senator Tom Cotton’s op-ed is a betrayal of its journalistic responsibilities.
To check China’s abuses, other countries will have to draw a line in the sand – and punish Beijing if it crosses it.
The allegations against Joe Biden might be forcing Democrats to recognize their previous position on sexual misconduct was indefensible.
Can freedom of assembly be circumscribed during an outbreak?
Oratory is one of a politician’s most potent tools. Why do China’s leaders use it so ineptly?
The coronavirus might kill excessive efficiency. Good.
The king’s decision to appoint the man with apparently less parliamentary support prime minister was controversial. In the absence of an explanation, suspicions will fester.
Malaysia’s political mastermind seems to have lost control of everything.
Democracy has been backstabbed and lies in intensive care, but who did it?
The Chinese Communist Party’s shirking of responsibility at every level shows why it’s unfit to lead.
“You can all go about your lives as normal. Everything is fine.”
Like Hong Kong, Singapore used to be a British colony. Unlike Hong Kong, it has no pesky tradition of relative liberty since that was crushed out of it long ago.
Beijing called it “a violation of the One-China principle.”
America’s national myths make it underrate its establishment and overrate its people. China’s make it do the opposite.
Who believes in the power of liberal democratic ideas the most? Dictators.
If both sides try to defend the indefensible, the city will burn.
Why are myths and legends full of supernatural seductresses?
The original stimulus of the protests – the extradition bill – has long been withdrawn and forgotten; the tribal cycle of violence has generated its own self-sustaining momentum.
Why do so many overseas Chinese support the Chinese Communist Party? Mostly, it’s racism.
Afghanistan is the women’s rights debate that no one’s having.
Forcing the withdrawal of the extradition bill is a great achievement, but now they risk overreaching.
The Islamist preacher Zakir Naik is not important. What his case reflects about Malaysia, though, is.
Lee Kuan Yew was a titan and the shadow he casts is long and black and all of Singapore remains under it.
Asia’s ladies who lunch are here to stay.
Hong Kongers know when they’ve got something valuable, and if someone tries to take it from them, they’ll fight like dogs to keep it.
Because modern problems require modern eternal punishments.
They say there’s a thin line between genius and madness. But what’s the relationship between the two?
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Xi contrasted “peaceful force” with the “violent force” used by “Western imperialists.”
A rich banker (with an MBA) takes a ride with a poor boatman (without an MBA).
A lament to every cat who’s ever looked down on us.
Malaysia has a rare shot at democracy. Will it drop the ball?
Don’t decolonize the curriculum – globalize it.